Sunday, June 7, 2009
Almost eleven
Alison is on vacation with her sister this week. This is the first time she will be gone from us for more than one night. The break is good but the house is soooo quiet. We have had Alison for 16 months. Her language is very good now. We can communicate on just about anything now and she understands. Now we are working on expanding the vocabulary.
In a year she has had some great strides. She has learned to ride her bike, roller skate, roll like a pro on her heelys and learned to swim. We have had our first trip to Disney and a cruise. She has had oral surgery to clean her teeth and extract some very rotten teeth. She has played soccer, tried basketball, danced her first tap and jazz recital and is now loving gymnastics. She has another school year of Chinese (Sunday school each week). She can read, write and spell. She passed her multiplication exam through 12's. She has done book reports, oral reports and a speech / poster board on Thomas Jefferson.
Mostly she has learned to love and to trust. She loves her family. Alison loves belonging. She is a social butterfly. She is our family gatherer. She can't get her family together too often. She calls her sisters on the phone to just talk and every phone call ends with, "can I come to you house?"
I almost can't remember our life without her.
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Oh Happy Day
We went out to eat tonight and Lynn asked me to pray. And she said "I pray". Now she still wanted me to help her with the words but she wanted to be the one who prayed. Wow. That is awesome.
She is a television "alcoholic" and I pull her away as much as I can. At bedtime as she was getting ready for bed she says "I sleep in here"... meaning our bed. Well, of course because Lynn had the TV on. We went back to her room and she kept asking "I watch TV, little bit, please?" I told her Daddy was turning off the TV and where did she want to sleep? She says, "OH MAN".... and them "hummmmp". I left her room and went back to our room. She came in when she was in her PJs and climbed in our bed. She says, "I like this one." Lynn asked her to come to him and give him a hug which she did willingly. He said, "I love you". and she said "I love you".
OH MY. OH MY. OH MY. She knows hugging and she knows what I love you means and she never hugs dad and she never says I love you to anyone. What a break through.
Besides the lovey stuff. She is reading beginning reader books. She can sound out most words. She may not pronounce them correctly but she is making great strides.
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Purple Princess is all smiles...
The pictures above were taken in her bedroom one evening. She was so happy. She pulled all eight of her Barbie type dolls and put them all in bed with her. She then posed for some pictures. This is not a child who just likes her picture taken.
This week is the week that goes down as the most dramatic change in our home. It started slowly about a week ago. Alison started talking at home... in English and in Chinese. If she doesn't know the words in English she says it in Chinese and then fusses when we don't understand her. She just wants to be understood!
As we left Angie's one afternoon, she says "Angie.....Caleb.... Nolan.... Ethan". Oh my, I was elated. I had never heard her say their names, ever! And she said them all. Then she says, "daddy?" OHHHH Yes. Scott. She wanted to know what Scott's name was. What is the name of Caleb, Nolan and Ethan's daddy? Before I could pick my mouth up off the floor she continues... "Michelle..... Alyssa" (then she shrugs because Michelle is divorced and she doesn't see Alyssa's dad often). She continues, "Emilie, Maggie, Joseph..... Daniel ..... Hollie.... Tammie". I said don't forget Kyle (we saw him in Florida) and she didn't say Stephen but she hasn't seen him much. Then she says, "daddy"? Greg, his name is Greg. She put her whole family together. She knew who went with who and wanted to know the guys names. She also wanted to know what my name and Lynn's name were. Was I a proud momma. That is a lot of people to get straight.
Over the next week or so, the words kept coming, "what's that", "I want that one", "I don't know", "I hungry" and many others. This week at dinner one night she offered me a bite of somehthing and I just grunted. She looks at me and says, "Can you say no thank you?" Cough, choke, smile, "well, yes I can. No, Thank you." OH MY GOODNESS. Someone in the family might as well have manners.
Then Thursday at school, she opened up. I was hoping it was about time with all of the language we had at home but I never dreamed it would come so fast. Anyway, Alison has never spoken much at school. Well, except for the "no" to everything you ask her. Not now, she started talking to everyone. She talked to the kids and her teacher, Mrs. Lanham, and most of all to Jennifer. Jennifer is a little girl from China who speaks fluent Mandarin and they are in class together. Even Jennifer didn't get hardly any words from Alison even though they sit beside each other. I have talked to Jennifer and she thinks Alison doesn't like her. I tried to explain she was just shy. Now they are the chatter twins in their secret language that no one else understands. Now they are both happy.
Now if that isn't enough, it just gets better.
Thursday afternoon we have a break through and then Thursday night she had a school program where Alison's class was to sing and dance on stage. Of course she told her teacher NO but she did the practices for the program and we crossed our fingers. We were told the kids were to wear Sunday church clothes. Now that means a dress except this child has NEVER worn a dress. I failed on Easter to get a dress on her not once but twice. I tried last week to convince her to wear a dress and she pulled on the sweats. I failed. I was prepared for the fight (losing miserably) and the child being the only little princess up on stage in pants and a school shirt.
I kept putting it off. We had such a good day and now I was going to have to fight her over a dress. Anyway, I told her she needed to get ready for her program and she didn't get it (you know... sing... dance with your class). I said she needed to wear a dress to school to sing and dance and she said "NO". I told her that Jennifer is wearing a dress and we went to her room. I pulled out all four of her dresses. She said flat out no to the black/white polka dot and the red/white polka dots(ok, I got carried away with dots...but they are different and very cute and I bought them at different times and I forgot what I had at home). Well, again I got the big no. She did look at the purple flowered dress and the pink dress. She held each of them up and then chose the purple. SHE PUT ON A DRESS. SHE PUT ON A DRESS. We were in her room 5 minutes and she made a decision and put on a dress. Next, she got her panty hose out of the drawer and I helped her put them on. (I didn't even know she knew what they were.)
WOW. I was so happy to get a dress on her and then she surprised me again. She got a head band out of the drawer. Now that sounds so simple. She has NEVER put anything in her hair. EVER. Her adoption pictures showed her in a dress with her hair pulled back. I took hair things with me to China and nope she would have none of them except to fill her Barbie's heair with braid after braid. No matter what I bought for her hair, she would not wear it. You can imagine how surprised I was when she would not agree to wear a dress or put anything in her hair. If she hadn't opened up to Jennifer it would not have mattered what Jennifer was wearing! Thank you Jennifer!
She sang in her program and danced. She even smiled. Everyone told her how pretty she was. The school is a buzz with the rumor that she is talking.
On Friday, the words continued. She usually just swings during recess... all alone. Not now. She is playing with the other kids from her class. Can anything else change?
Oh, I forgot. She also learned to ride her bike on Wednesday. Ok, she rode it for blocks and then crashed into the garage door to stop but she is riding really well.
WHEW! She is trying to read. She is writing letters. She is understanding money and how much each coin is worth. She is playing more on Webkinz and making recipes for her pets.
Less you think it is all roses. She is controlling the TV. She gets mad when we don't let her watch what she wants. She hates her bike helmet and is ignoring us when we tell her to put it on. She pouts when you ask her to put up her own things. She is not going to sleep when put to bed. She gets up and plays and we put her back to bed several times.
But did I tell you she is calling us mommy and daddy? Well, throw the discipline problems out the window. We are giddy with joy. Our child can talk, ride a bike and she mostly likes us. What a week.
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Spring Break... what a break
Look at that smile. We spent last week in Destin, FL on the beach. On this day, we were all a bit cold but Alison was "AT THE BEACH". She loved the beach but the pool is still number one. We had a great time in the warmer temps of Florida.
We had a heated pool and the beach. We played on the beach and then I would get this swimming motion and she would say "that one"... so off we went to the pool. She was in, under and trying to swim on-top of the water. We bought a noodle and she thinks the breast stroke works with a noodle. I kept showing her a regular straight leg kick but what do I know. If we had stayed one more week, she would have been swimming. Boy is she going to love having a pool in her own back yard. Bring on summer.
Every swimmer needs their pink goggles!
The Bass Pro Shop keeps the kids off the boats by having a very scary security shark.
You might think Alison is screaming with fright but she is actually showing her most fearsome face to scare that shark away. Alyssa looks like she loves this toothy guy but she said she thought he was scary because his head is up and it looks like he could eat you.
I was just glad that the girls didn't get swallowed by the shark... oh I know he isn't real. I was afraid all of the pulling, pushing and trying to pull his teeth would pull him from the supports holding him up!
We went out in the Gulf for a dolphin watch. Alison looked like captain material so she was allowed to try out the big chair. She looks very happy to be captain of a ship.
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Tears and Fears and Reconciliation
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
March & we have a new child
We are not watching the Chinese movies I bought in China. I picked up a bunch of movies and some have Cantonese and Mandarin as options plus other languages that I don't know what they are because I can't read what it says. Anyway, we haven't watched a movie in Chinese in about two weeks. Of course if you let her, the choice is always "High School Musical" now. We have been watching "Super Why" and "Ni Hao, Kai-lan" on TV after school. I tape them and we watch them when she gets home. She is really funny with Kai-lan, she says everything they say in Chinese. Lynn and I repeat the Chinese too and she giggles and shakes her head over our pronunciation.
I took her spelling words and looked them up on a website that teaches Mandarin. It is amazing when you see all the Chinese words for "left". I picked the one I thought was the most obvious for the sentence the teacher will use to ask the kids to spell the word. Anyway, I copied the Chinese characters and then the pinyin. So, three columns... spelling word.... Chinese character...pinyin. Maybe this isn't helping her but most spelling words are very abstract. I just wanted to give her something she could review as she writes her spelling words. In church, she wrote all three columns out and seemed to be reading the Chinese.
She has beautiful handwriting. I think at this point she is just trying to memorize everything. She knows the alphabet and can write it. She recognizes the letters and can pick them out on the computer keyboard as I tell her what to write. She loves crafts. She will draw and cut out just about anything. She is an audio learner. She loves to sing and it something is put to music, she is repeating it very quickly.
Alison was looking around my sewing room on Friday and was very excited to see a small set of tools in a drawer (I use them on my sewing machines). She tried to take something apart with a screwdriver but I asked her to put the screwdriver up. Well, on Sunday morning she had the screwdriver out and had taken her cheap music phone apart (it was working before she took it apart). She broke both wires so of course it isn't fixable. She was very sad that it was broken and Lynn couldn't easily fix it. She needs to learn that you don't take things apart. When we wonder where she is when she is out of our sight, either Lynn or I will make a comment about her upstairs taking apart my quilting machine. Now that would not be funny.
On Sunday, she got on her bicycle like she knew what she was doing. Well, she knows how to pedal and she knows how to fall off. She could go about 4-6 pedals of the bike and seem to "have it" and then fall over. We need to go to a large parking lot with no traffic to work on this again. Then later that day, she put on in-line skates. Again, she falls really good. She was very patient and wasn't afraid to fall and she would get up over and over to try it again. She finally got to a point where she wasn't doing too bad and could go a ways before she fell.
Alison is still so shy. She is making up with a few people but not many. She is also very stubborn and no, she is not talking. She is understanding but not speaking unless forced. We are gong on spring break with Michelle and Alyssa. I think that will be our major communication breakthrough. I think talking to Alyssa will become pretty natural once they are together for a week.